Are you the person who makes resolutions at midnight year after year and has broken them by the time the first mojito and slice of pizza goes down at sunset on Jan 1?
This year I'm going to lose weight, get fit, tone up.
This year I'm going to get to the gym more than twice (and one was to join).
This year I'm going to cook more often and take my healthy, nutritious lunches to work.
This year I'm going to....
Let's be honest.
Why is this year going to be any different to the last 5, 10, 20 years?
I'm not here to burst your bubble.
I'm just being a realist.
The odds are against you. The stats say you are far more likely to break your resolutions within the first month of two of 2015 than you are of actually keeping them for 6 months or more.
Why? Why do we start the year so full of hope and determined that this year is going to be different?
We set off on our weight loss goal, in what is seriously the most ridiculous time of year to try to 'restrict' or 'deny' ourselves in our calorie counting quest. Summer parties, weekend barbeques, cold drinks and good times.
Before we know it January and February have passed and we are staring down the barrel of March and Easter filled with chocolaty goodness and hot cross buns and all best laid plans fly out the window.
Suddenly we are in the middle of winter with extra layers of clothes and comfort food keeping us warm and cuddly.
And then "OMG!" - here comes spring again with less layers, bathers, white skin and all sorts of body image horrors! So we go on an 8 week spring clean and exercise blitz to get ourselves looking a little more acceptable for summer, where we indulge in the good times of Christmas/New Year once again before setting our new resolutions for 2016.
Time Warp anyone????
Can you see why this just becomes a never ending Merry-go-round that plays havoc with your self-esteem and self-worth? Yet ANOTHER thing that you have started and failed?
BUT...it doesn't have to be this way.
You can make a choice NOT to set yourself up for failure.
You CAN make a real difference to your health, your fitness and your life in 2015 if you want to.
I mean REALLY want to.
100%, more than anything want to.
But first you have to truly believe that:
A) You can
B) You deserve it.
If you don't really believe both of these then, I won't lie to you, you're always going to struggle. These 2 are paramount to any success story.
Your success story.
The second thing is simply this - GET HELP.
Now your first instinct might be to deny that you need any help - that you can do it on your own.
But answer this for me: How's that been working for you so far?
Make this your one and only New Year resolution - Get help.
Get help from your nearest and dearest because a good support network is essential. Remove the negative influences from your circle and surround yourself with positive, motivating and inspirational people who lift you up daily and encourage you.
Get help from your Medical professional if it is warranted. If you feel there are medical issues at play - get them investigated!
Get help from a qualified professional in the health industry. A personal trainer, a nutritionist or dietician, a gym. Do your research, ask around, get recommendations from people you have witnessed go through changes. Find somewhere or someone that you feel an affinity with and go GET HELP.
I'll let you in on a secret....Trainers need help too! We recognise when we need a kick up the butt, or we don't have expertise in an area and we seek help from those who do.
I had a goal to compete in my first figure competition in 2014. But I also realised that I didn't have the knowledge or skills to get myself in the necessary shape to get me to the stage. So I got help.
I did my research, asked others & hired a well-respected team to help me get to the stage in October. The results speak for themselves. Could I have done it on my own?
I could have tried. I may have done ok for a while.
But without having the accountability, support and weekly check ins with my Coaches I'm fairly certain I would have fallen off the rails over and over until I gave up and chalked up another 'fail' in my long list of unfinished business.
I recognised when I made my resolution that while I could try to do it alone, ultimately I would only be successful if I got help.
And that is what I need you to do if you are truly serious about reaching your goals in 2015.
Do it tomorrow.
Don't wait til 1 Jan.
Because 1 Jan is a Friday, and of course, we won't start Friday, we'll wait til Monday.
Do you really seriously want to utter those words "I'll start on Monday" one more single bloody time in 2015???
Wrapping up for 2014 and heading into 2015, here are some of the words of wisdom that struck a chord with me recently and I hope make an impact on you in some way:
Eating well is a form of self-respect.
Nobody is 'too busy' - it's just a matter of priorities. We all have the same 24 hours in a day.
Exercise for life, not looks
Don't whinge and whine about your weight or body if you're not prepared to do anything about it. Pretty soon everyone will stop listening.
Food is medicine....heal yourself from the inside out. Remember that every single thing you choose to put in your mouth will either make you healthy or eventually sick and/or diseased.
Nothing and no one can make you happy until you are happy with yourself. Don't look for happiness anywhere else first. Start from within.
Get clarity about what your goals are and crush any self-doubt.
There are no quick fixes. Period.
I can. I will. End of Story.
Wishing you all a safe and happy New Year and I look forward to sharing more musings with you in 2015.